Friday, October 16, 2009
The Mystery of Alligators
"How To Love Difficult People in Our Lives"
When dealing with difficult people in our lives, many of us resort to anger, resentment or isolation – we don’t appreciate how we are being treated by persons and our “fight or flight instinct” is triggered. Yet if we don’t learn how to deal with conflicts with others in a healthy way, our lives become agitated as animosities build up in our souls. As a Christian, I have tried over the years to remind myself that every person is created by God in His image and that all persons are someone for whom Christ died. That has helped me in my behavior towards difficult people in my life, but it was lacking in helping me to love these persons. After all, Jesus commanded us, "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you: Love your enemies] and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in Heaven. He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matthew 5:43-48). This seems an impossible standard -- we are merely human after all -- therefore many people make no attempt to move toward Jesus’ command of relating to difficult people with love. The truth is that it is impossible for us to do so as human beings, but there is a power that can help us go beyond politeness to difficult people toward actively loving them. In my recent studies, I discovered a passage of scripture that has provoked my thinking and given me a new understanding of loving my enemies. When we confess that Jesus is Lord, we receive the Holy Spirit within us and “where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into His likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” (2 Corinthians 3:17-18). When we react with anger, resentment and isolation toward difficult people, we are like the Apostles James and John when they became violently angry with the Samaritans after some conflict, we “do not know what kind of Spirit” we have within us. (Luke 9:55). We need to realize that how we relate to people is not dependent on their character or actions, but on who we are – children of a Heavenly Father who pours love on the righteous and unrighteous alike. He has given us His Spirit to transform us into His likeness throughout our lives. Selah.
"Finding Hope in Despair”
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